Chances Are Life is Confusing When Your Frames Are Warped
⁘ “So much of our trouble in understanding others is a framing problem. Things in themselves are typically not super complicated. We look at them from all sorts of weird angles. You set your expectations. You boot up your prejudice. You prime all your fears and hopes — and this becomes the looking glass of interpretation. Why don't you just look at what is — as it is — and take it from there? See where that takes you.”
Have you considered how so much
of our trouble in understanding others,
and understanding anything at all,
is really just a framing problem?
Where the thing in itself
is typically not super complicated,
but it becomes so very complicated
when you're trying to look at it
from all sorts of weird angles.
You set your expectations.
You boot up your prejudice.
You prime all your fears and hopes,
and this becomes the looking glass
through which you interpret all things.
"Like dude, I don't get it."
But what exactly are you trying to get from it?
Why don't you just look at what is,
and take it from there?
See where it takes you.
Reflect on what is.
Whatever that it is.
Ask the questions in your heart and your mind.
What is this?
Why is this?
How is this?
Where am I in all of it?
Simply tuning in to whatever it is that is,
on its own terms.
Because if you set all sorts of terms
to what you're looking for,
what you're expecting,
and what you're hoping to get out of it,
you become blind and deaf to what actually is.